Tag Archives: awareness

Are you obstacle-minded or a problem solver? Goal setting & fixing mistakes

When we say, “Oh, well,” to a failure, we are more likely to repeat the mistake. Instead, correct forward rather than excusing backwards. Quite literally, this is “problem solving.”

There will always be obstacles and difficulties. Success doesn’t happen by itself. It’s all about learning from problems instead of resigning to them — or worse, using them as an excuse to give up on our goals. Continue reading

Teaching or learning: teachers, which would you prefer? If you want it, sell it!

I hate my teacher!

Teachers, I can’t tell you how much I hear from kids that they’re ready to learn, but their teacher keeps getting in the way.

Yep, we hear it all the time, “I hate my teacher!” But if we listen behind the angry words, what kids are really saying is that they’d rather like than hate their teachers. Continue reading

Building up the house: in-school student oversight with Gabriella Carbone

Building up the house: in-school student oversight with Gabriella Carbone

Student Success Podcast No. 20, Sept 4, 2014 (recorded July 11, 2014)

Today’s Guest: Gabriella Carbone.

In this interview, Gabriella discusses her Academic Coaching work with high school student athletes during the 2013/14 school year. Focusing on athletes, Gabriella helped them track work, build executive function and interpersonal skills. She served as their counselor, mentor, advocate and friend. Continue reading

Don’t procrastinate, Prioritize! Prioritization v. Procrastination

The difference between prioritizing and procrastination is the difference between a backbone and a wishbone.

One is in control, the other is just hoping.

I cannot emphasize enough that not all delay is procrastination. Just because you put it off doesn’t mean that you are harming yourself. Indeed, successful prioritization means putting things off — only with planning and organization.

The Rule

Here’s the rule: if there is any harm in the delay, it’s procrastination. If not, it’s prioritization, and a job well done. Continue reading

Encouragement from Mischa Beckett: empowering yourself & your college experience

Encouragement from Mischa Beckett: empowering yourself & your college experience

Student Success Podcast No. 19, Apr. 17, 2014

Today’s Guest: Mischa Beckett, Ph.D. Political Science and college lecturer.

In this interview, Mischa discusses her work with high school students in the A+ Club program. Mischa brings the view of a college teacher to the high school experience and discusses how all students of all levels and struggles can use encouragement and help in raising their self-awareness. Continue reading

Distractions & procrastination: can you pass the marshmallow test?

Would you take the one marshmallow now or wait for two later?


Don’t let the marshmallow be a distraction!

Procrastination is all about putting off for later something you don’t want to do in exchange for feeling better now.

In the classic Stanford Marshmallow Experiment, Professor Walter Mischel offered young children a sort of opposite problem: feeling stress now by putting off something you want in order to get more of it later.

He gave children a marshmallow and then told them that if they didn’t eat it now, in fifteen minutes they’d get another one. But if they ate the first one, they wouldn’t get another one at all. (Here for How to give the marshmallow test.)

Seems kinda cruel to me, and if I were a kid in the experiment, I’d have eaten the 1st marshmallow then held the researcher for ransom for five more — and now.

Impulse control v instant gratification

The point is, however, that the ability to withhold the impulse for instant gratification is a powerful life skill. Children in the experiment who were able to hold off for two marshmallows were found, ten and twelve years later, to be “significantly more competent” than other adolescents and scored higher on SAT tests.

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Procrastinating the steps: how to follow instructions when you just want to rush through it

Impatience with instructions is just procrastination in another form

In this case, the procrastination isn’t delay, it’s not wanting to put up with annoying instructions, details, and steps.

If,

Procrastination is harmful deferment of an aversive task
(translation: putting off something we don’t want to do and getting burned by it later)

then, if you’re skipping instructions in order to finish more quickly and it leads to a lower grade, you’re procrastinating. Continue reading

How do I get better grades? Five easy steps to improve your grades

Lots of advice out there, most of it good but not very practical.

Try these steps for simplifying and acting on your goals one bite at a time:

1.  Lower your expectations

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  • Long-term, high goals are rarely acted on.
  • In fact, like new year’s resolutions, the bigger the goal the more readily it is dropped or ignored.
  • Why? Because when we set expectations that are too high, it becomes easier to accept failure than try something we know we can’t do.
  • Avoid abstract goals like “get better grades” and
  • Instead focus on the process of getting better grades rather than the grades themselves. [/wpex]

2. Focus on little steps, not big gains

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  • Create short-term, simple goals that are easier to reach and can be acted on daily.
  • Focus on the little, day-to-day things, like
    • list out realistically the things you can do today.
    • check them off as you go along and you will feel good about them and see your progress.
  • Give yourself a chance with little accomplishments rather than burdening yourself with huge expectations.
  • Improvement is a process, not a high-jump contest [/wpex]

3. Be aware of why you procrastinate

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  • Procrastination is about avoiding a responsibility in order to relieve stress over it by saying you’ll do it later.
  • Recognize your own tendencies to procrastinate.
  • Seek practical solutions and strategies to overcome it.
  • We have tons of articles, podcasts, and webinars on procrastination on this website.
    • It’s crucial that you understand your own relationship with procrastination.
    • Please see our links above and get started on getting started on ending your procrastination! [/wpex]

4. You don’t have to do it all at once: just get started!

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  • When you assume that you have to do it all at once, you are scaring yourself into not doing it until you have to do it — all at once at the last minute.
  • The single most important step in accomplishment is starting.
  • You can’t finish what you don’t start
  • Don’t expect too much over yourself: instead, just get started.
  • This will help you address your little, short-term goals rather than letting your long-term goals scare you away from it all. [/wpex]

5.  Ask your teacher a question

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  • Just asking a question about your work defines it and makes it easier to figure out.
    • With a question you are taking a huge first step towards identifying what you need and establishing realistic steps towards completing it.
  • Teachers love to be asked questions:
    • They will be on your side if you just ask them about it
    • Besides, they’re the ones grading you and setting the expectations for you.
    • If you can’t ask your teacher, ask a friend. [/wpex]

 

Notice how each of these five steps are about the same thing: focusing on the little parts of your bigger picture and just getting started on it.

It will all fall into place once you get going.

Good luck, and please let us know if we can help out.

– Michael

Dr. Procrastination: Tim Pychyl featured on Ottawa TV

Great interview on CTV Ottawa news! In this interview Dr. P talks about the destructive and limiting effects of procrastination on lifestyle choices. When procrastination controls you, you are not in control of the things you want to do and be. Dr. Pychyl shows viewers the priorities and responsibilities for his own life, as he discusses the truly “existential” damage of procrastination and the limits it puts on the lives of sufferers. Continue reading